2013 has really been full of unhappy tidings. First – a friend unexpectedly passed away while on a chairlift in Vermont. Then two close friends have had their husbands ask for separations. Of course this week brought the Boston marathon bombing and the crazy manhunt which involved the death of an MIT campus police. These two events – while affecting everyone in the nation – feel close to me because of the 10 years I spent at MIT, living in and around Boston, and the fact that I tried earlier this year (and am still trying) to qualify for the Boston marathon.
At one level – one of the worst years yet. A year that could lead one to question humanity.
But in the midst of all this has also come some great joy. The over-the-moon achievement of winning the nationals with my husband. The forming of some great friendships with my women’s curling team. And a fantastically fun weekend with my running friends at Walt Disney World in January.
Sometimes I wonder why it seems so hard for people to stay happy together, to stay in relationship. Why is it that I have amazing friends (both women and men) who would like to be in long-term relationships, but are still single? Why is it that I have amazing friends who get so hurt by the ones that they love most? And will Derek and I be immune to this?
Perhaps the best and only thing to take away from all of this – is for me to really be grateful and appreciate what I have with Derek, and to appreciate the wonderful friendships and good times that I’ve been fortunate to have.